Since there are many obese people walking around and I think we passed the making fun of them phase (since we’re not kids anymore) I think it’s about time I start sharing some of my experiences.
First of all, I’m no longer “the fat kid” in class, but I was once. My parents were always carefull to tell me I was just big boned and I should be proud that I’m going to be full of muscles later, but my colleagues making fun of me didn’t help at all.
While my other fat colleagues (we were a few in my class) stood and bowed their heads in shame I tried to take action. At first, I kicked every single one of my colleagues who dared to make fun of me, but that wasn’t a solution so often I would complain to my folks that I’m to fat and they should cut the crap about big bones and do something about me.
One side of my family has this problem for generations. Unfortunatelly it got to me too. Since dieting works well, but only for a short period of time, sports were always a must in our home.
This is actually a general truth: dieting alone will do nothing. To keep fit one must practice some kind of sport, any sport. Go to the gym, jogg, lift some weights at home… do whatever sport you like, because if you keep a diet and don’t exercise there’s a pretty good chance you starved for nothing. To maintain your weight, you must exercise regularly.
Back to my story.
Since sports were a must in our home, I started to exercise when I was a few years old.
First, my parents took me to ballet lessons. What is more fit for a 5 year old girl than ballet lesson? I’ll tell you what: anything else! When did you last see a round kid dancing ballet and not looking extreemly funny? After you stop laughing, imagine the fat kid taking ballet lessons for a few years.
Since that didn’t help and I began to grunt at people, everyone agreed ballet wasn’t a good choice. My parents knew better than to put an 11 year old kid to a diet, so I began to practice sports at home. Surprisingly , it helped.
By the time I was 14, I already looked better. No more round belly, no more fat jokes. At home, after giving up ballet, I started some “serious” sport exercises: I began to work my abs, work with light dumbells, do various exercises for various muscles groups and little by little, I began to look fit.
I also began small. My dumbells were only 2-3 lbs. each (1-2 kilos), I was only able to make small series of abdomen exercises and so on. It was hard at first but I was so determined to look better and to make everyone stop making fun of me that in a few years I was actually considered pretty.
After that, I started highschool. In highschool, I had other “occupations”. I thought that since I was’t fat anymore I can stop exercising. In a few months though, the weight came back. I wasn’t obese, but close. Everything went back to my first grade when colleagues made fun of me and my pretty clothes no longer fit. I had to start all over again.
I never kept a diet because my parents forbid me. I was still growing up and a diet would have been a bad idea. What I did, instead of being grumpy and depressed, was take action. I started practicing martial arts and in a few months, after long and hard sessions of training, I looked better that ever.
Now I’m 25 and sitting in front of the computer all day long, but I’m not fat anymore. I own a car, but walk by foot every chance I get, I can’t afford a personal trainer, but exercise at home from time to time, I am gone from home a lot but still convince myself to go jogging at least 2 times a week.
I know what a fat person feels like because I was one of them. I thought about it over the years and the only thing I can do to make this problem go away is to try and keep fit. I’m not a maniac and also I never understood what the heck is so beautiful at women showing off their ribs but as long as you feel good about yourself, the “ideal silhouette” does not exist (you should also stop looking at women in magazines, most of them are photoshoped).
You decide whether you want to lose weight or not. There are many reasons to lose weight and also a lot of ways. All you need is to be determined and stop thinking about how hard it is, but about the final result.